But is EI important in every day life? Of course it is. Our emotions are involved in every thought and every decision. Emotions have the ability to kidnap the rest of the brain if they feel there is some kind of emergency or a threat therefore it is so important to understand what we feel and why we feel what we feel.
Four competencies form Emotional Intelligence: Self- Awareness, Self- Management, Social Awareness and Social Skills (Relationship Management).
Everything starts with the self. Before you can influence or lead others, you need to know how to lead yourself. Having that knowledge does not only mean understanding one’s strengths and weaknesses, it means having self-confidence.
Naturally most of us will struggle with confidence, even the most confident people will experience moments of self-doubt. Why? Because we all had negative or challenging life experiences. Even if we were blessed with a wonderful childhood – because the world is balanced – every positive experience we encountered created a negative or a challenging situation later in life. In other words, by the very act of giving another person everything, one takes something away from that person. For an example, by giving them all they desire or creating problems-free and stress-free environments, parents strip their children of independence or an ability to fail and pick themselves up.
Any ‘negative’ in our eyes experience forms self-doubt and lowers our self confidence. Still, people with great childhood will be more self aware or naturally happy as they will simply have less to hide or escape from. The challenge for many people and their coaches is to work on building self-worth.
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