- Accept your weaknesses. A person with a healthy self-esteem is balanced, such an individual accepts both: their strengths and weaknesses, and learns from both. I am sure you have heard the phrase: humble confidence. One should aim to achieve the kind of confidence, which allows them to stay balanced, focused and present and not let the emotions – positive or negative, kidnap and dictate their behaviour.
- Recognise your self talk and in particular your negative self-talk. There are techniques of quieting the negative talk down by for an example referring to the ‘talker’ as a separate individual, uninvited guest or a sabotour and by separating the sabotour from self. Those of you who have been coached by me, know what I am referring to here.
- Exercise gratitude. Unless we stop and appreciate what we have and have achieved, we can easily get caught up in negative thinking and feeling of worthlessness. By writing down three things you have achieved each day or challenges you have conquered or things you are grateful for today, you minimise the impact of one-sided view on your life.
- Engage in helpful behaviours. Approach challenges with an open mind, stop procrastinating and rather than asking why it is happening to me, ask how am I benefiting from this challenge? or how is this an opportunity for me? More on that in Balance article..
- Practice new behaviour. Confident behaviours can also be developed by adopting new habits. The best way to do that is to implement one new habit every month and focus on repeating the new activity every day until it becomes part of your routine. Make sure the habit helps you conquer one of your challenges. For an example, if you lacked confidence in requesting people’s help and had the tendency to procrastinate about it, make a conscious effort to develop a habit of doing it as often as possible, as early as possible and ideally every day.
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